Wedding Wednesday: Planning again

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(Our new venue)

It’s been months since I did a Wedding Wednesday post, but I’ve been in full-on planning mode since we decided last fall to reschedule our wedding for this May. In case you are new here, we had to postpone our wedding last year after it became clear we couldn’t afford what we had been planning. You can read about that here.

We’ve been busy since about November getting all of the new details together. We changed our venue, cut our guest list and have generally approached the new date with a fresh perspective. It has been so much easier and we’ve really enjoyed the planning process.

We switched to The Blennerhassett Hotel in Parkersburg, WV, for both the ceremony and reception. They have been amazing to work with so far. It is actually cheaper and a better venue than our original one, so we couldn’t be happier with the switch.

We will be having everything in their patio tent, which is so gorgeous. The price of the venue includes table linens, chair covers, set up and tear down as well as an integrated sound system. We are able to save a ton of money by basically being our own DJ.

We cut our guest list down from around 75 people to 40 in an effort to save money. While it was hard to cut down the list, I think the day will be so much more special and intimate with just those that are the very closest to us.

We have also decided to go with an appetizer buffet instead of a sit-down dinner. We want everyone to mingle and feel relaxed and we felt this option fit best with how we envisioned our reception. We’ll have meatballs, chicken skewers, spinach artichoke dip, a cheese tray, pinwheel sandwiches, a garden salad and some other small snacks like rolls, chips, pretzels and dips.

We’re still doing cupcakes instead of a traditional wedding cake. Eric and I will have a small cake to cut. We decided to go with The Village Cakery, which has a great reputation in the area. I was able to try some samples last weekend when I went home to do some planning and they were so good. We decided to go with an assortment of chocolate, vanilla and red velvet cupcakes with butter cream icing. Our small cake with be chocolate with butter cream icing. I’m really looking forward to how it will come together. Her prices were very reasonable as well, which was great for us.

We still have to decide on a few things, but overall I am so looking forward to our day. Although it was a hard decision to postpone it, I think it was ultimately the best decision we could have made.

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Wedding Wednesday: Attire

A few weeks ago I was contacted by The Black Tux, a tuxedo rental company, to talk about wedding attire. Even though our wedding is still on hold right now I thought it was a great post idea. I’ve been to so many different types of weddings from very formal to super casual. The Black Tux has put together a handy chart that simply breaks down all of the different types of wedding attire and what would be acceptable options for each one.

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Our wedding will be semi-formal. Eric and the groomsmen will wear suits and the bridesmaids will wear nice dresses. Guests are fine to wear dress pants and shirt for men and dresses or a nice skirt and top for women. We want everyone to be comfortable, but still look nice. Our wedding has been downsized to only include around 35-40 people, so it’s definitely going to be an intimate ceremony and reception. We want people to really feel at ease and part of our day and not have to worry about wearing uncomfortable clothes or shoes.

The worst thing about going to a wedding is not knowing what the attire should be. Sometimes you can tell from the invitation, but it’s not always included. So if it’s not specifically stated on the invitation, try getting some clues from the location because that can usually set the tone for what kind of event it is. If it’s in a hotel ballroom I would probably lean toward black tie or black tie optional. If it’s in a barn or a more rustic setting, I would lean toward semi-formal or casual.

Since our wedding will likely be in the fall, it’s also hard to know what to wear to a wedding that’s in an off-season month. It’s hard to know if it will be warm or cold in months like September, October and again in the spring in March and April. It’s always a good idea to wear layers during these months because it could be cool in the morning and warm up in the afternoon. You can always wear a nice blazer or wrap and then take it off at the reception if you get hot.

To me, no matter what you wear, the most important thing is to make sure it is appropriate. I know a lot of people view weddings as a big party, but you shouldn’t be wearing super revealing dresses or super tall heels. We’ve all been to a wedding where someone treated it like a night at the club instead of a celebration of love and family. It’s always a little cringe-worthy and embarrassing.

And if it comes down to it and you really aren’t sure what to wear, just ask. I’d have no problem answering questions about what guests should wear. I don’t want anyone to feel out of place, under-dressed or over-dressed.